Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Mid-week weekend!

What's with the oxymoron, you might ask.

Well, we have 3 day working this semester. So,
 Wednesday(8th semester)=Friday(for everybody else)
And even though right now it might look like I'm going to be free for the next 4 days, I'm going to put it out there. Busy, very busy!!

When life gets really busy, home seems like a get away like never before. So however tiring work is, getting home can take away all that in a little while. It is important to never lose yourself in your work. Finding time to do the things you love is the key.


So take a break, sip some tea and have a nice day :)
What are your ways to unwind after a long day?

Thanks for reading,
XO Ayesha

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Guest post: Stages to falling in love with your friend(Hilarious)

Stages to falling in love with your friend
Untitled, a photo by Carolina ABR on Flickr.




There are 5 stages to falling in love with your friend. First your best friends for ages and then you realize that somewhere along the way you had fallen for the other. Of course at this stage you refuse to believe it.

STAGE 1: DENIAL

THINGS COMMONLY SAID:

  1. “I do NOT like him/her!” (this usually said to another friend close enough to notice the subtle differences)
  2. “We’re just friends!”
  3. “Yes mom, I know he/she’s great but we do not like each other that way!” (usually said to the mother or a really overprotective friend)
  4. “no we are not secretly going out” (said to an annoying acquaintance)
  5. “Just because we’re friends of the opposite genders doesn’t mean we’re going to fall madly in love and end up married with a dozen kids!” (If this is said to a mother then its usually quickly followed by- “No! That is not ‘so cute!’ nor would it be great mum!”)

Then comes the stage where you get tired of the assumptions and accusations and want to stop defending your friendship to everyone (and secretly yourself) so what happens is either one or both of you get a significant other. If not that at least a fake crush.

STAGE 2: JEALOUSY

THE THINGS COMMONLY SAID:
  1. “yea, yea they look cute together, big deal”
  2. “So? I could do that too, it just looks cool that’s all”
  3. “I’m happy for them, they are made for each other”
  4. “I get along really well with her/him, we’re like best friends!” (said about the significant other)
  5. (when asked about your own relationship) “It’s going great, yea I mean we’re in a really good place right now y’know?” or “He/she’s great, really great. We have a lot in common plus he/she is really cute!”
  6. “I am not jealous! They could get married or whatever! Big deal!”
  7. “Seriously I do not care!”
  8. “Good grief they are getting so bloody sickening!”
  9. “SHUT UP!”
  10. “yea yea I know everyone thought we’d get together and its sad that we didn’t blah blah get over it!”

The third stage can go in two possible directions

Your friend and you have a falling out due to aforementioned jealousy or because of the significant others meddling.

OR

You and your friend accidentally make out and don’t talk about it leading to a very awkward time in your relationship.

To be honest, unless you’re part of a happy story or a dream scenario 2 doesn’t really happen. Of course unless you’re just lucky. Because scenario 2 leads almost straight to the last stage (so we’ll skip this scenario shall we?).

STAGE 3, SCENARIO 1: THE FALLOUT

THINGS COMMONLY SAID:
  1. ”You just don’t get it do you?”
  2. “Typical you, I mean when is it ever your fault!”
  3. “You know what? Just go back to that little twerp/(word a bit abusive), he/she is all you want anyway!”
  4. “I cannot believe I ever even thought of you as a decent human being!”
  5. “Talking to you is just a waste of time”
  6. “He/she is an utter waste of space, (or) is manipulating you and you just can’t see it, (or) hates me because he/she feels like I’m some sort of threat!”
  7. “He/she is bad for you trust me!”
  8. ”You know what? Fine, just fine, go but don’t come crying to me when this whole thing blows up in your face!”
  9. “Take that back!” (said in response to some degrading insult)
  10. “He/she is perfect for you, but…”
  11. “you know what, this isn’t working for me, I’m sorry”
  12. ”look it isn’t you just drop it

Now you see, this stage is pretty tricky, perhaps one of the trickiest for no two friends ever fight the same way, they bring up scenarios and memories and comments only they can understand. And that’s the beauty of it really, they’re best friends. What really shows it is the weirdness and severity of their fights.

Then they reach an area of despair, both filled with the type of ego only friends can have. Usually they deny missing the other, or perhaps they are disgusted by them. They will vehemently try to prove their point to everyone around them and will scream in frustration at any one who gets in their way.

STAGE 4: THE FRUSTRATION

This stage has varied responses and each individual acts in the mentioned three ways. I wish I could say that they aren’t common things done or said but hey! We know that isn’t true. So things commonly said or done:
  1. “I hate him/her!”
  2. “I mean who exactly does he/she thinks he/she is. Plus that idiot(significant other) is such a AARGH!”
  3. “I don’t miss him/her”
  4. “look he/she is acting crazy, if he/she wants to talk it out like mature adults then great, I’m willing”
  5. “he/she’s too proud to admit to the mistake he/she made”
  6. “Blaming me for everything was extremely immature and I’m glad this whole friendship thing has been dealt with!” (harsh I agree)
  7. Getting sloshed is common
  8. Getting pissed off at random things and objects
  9. Crying(but not admitting it)
  10. Making crappy profound statements randomly

Then the honesty. Now this is a slightly tricky thing to explain. Some people first realize they are in love while others realize it when they say it out loud to the person itself.

STAGE 5: HONESTY / (the blurt out)
  1. “I miss you”
  2. “He/she’s great okay, and I’m sure is perfect you, but thing is…I’m better”
  3. “I think I can fall in love with you, and I would really like to try”
  4. “We’re best friends right? And I want to be honest with you, I hate you with him/her. I want to be with you and if that isn’t possible then I don’t know…it’s up to you now”
  5. “I love you”
  6. “I’m in love with you”
  7. “This is crazy, it feels crazy, I’m crazy but yea I think we’d be great together”
  8. “I miss you, and yea I never wanna feel like that again”

I would love to give a few more but the thing is I lied, these things aren’t commonly said, they are just what seem the easiest to say. Every couple has their own way of coming out and being truthful and defining that conversation is wrong.

And I guess you could say that was the last stage. What happens after that is once again a different story every time. But yea according to me and the little I’ve seen these are the stages of falling in love with your best friend. How do I know? Well can’t you guess?

By S.K.

She wanted me to use a pen name for her. But don't you think she should write more?? Do encourage her by commenting below!!!

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Smash plates to relieve stress


I often feel destructive when I am really really angry. The farthest I have gone is tearing sheets of paper. I was watching Pretty little liars where Hanna's mom takes her to a place where she could throw plates in order to relieve her breakup anger. First of all, SUCH A COOL MOM!! Second, I had no clue such places existed!



I Googled to check the existence of a place that allows you to break dishes to feel better. I was surprised to see, they did exist! This is a 5 year old news link about a place called Sarah's smash shack, San Diego.

After further reading, I found out that plates smashing is a Greek tradition observed during a celebration. This was adopted in Greek restaurants earlier. However a modern twist has been given to this tradition and is being used at Smash Shacks. I couldn't find any place like this in India. But with the growing IT industry(or any other stress inducing field) stress, the smash industry would be a smashing success in cities of developing countries.

Have you heard of this Greek tradition? Do you like the idea of it?

Thanks for reading,
XO Ayesha

Saturday, January 18, 2014

Using last nights Chapati

Many a times extra chapatis are prepared and some are left over from the previous day. And thrown out in the morning because no one wants to eat them.

First of all, for those of you who don't know what chapati is, find out over here.

My mother calls these Indian quesadilla. I simply feel that this is one of the simplest ways to fill the stomach! 


So firstly the ingredients. Nothing much is needed.

1. Cut up the vegetables. I have used here tomato, capsicum and onions. Lay out the roti. Cut up the cheese slice into little strips.

2. Lay the ingredients as illustrated below.


3. Serve hot, eat hot!


Thanks for reading,
XO Ayesha

Monday, January 13, 2014

How to fake sleep

What happens when you aren't able to sleep for enough time?

I wrote a post about sound sleep. To read, click here.

source: wikipedia


For any reason if you aren't able to sleep for the prescribed amount of time for two days in a row, what usually happens?

Well, you may feel lethargic, inattentive, irritated etc. But most of all you may become  unproductive. One may be able to fight the previous three, but being unproductive is sometimes just not excusable.

According to Michael Breus, PhD ( sleep expert) from Scottsdale, Arizona, you may use the nap-a-latte to feel fresh again.

What is nap-a-latte?

Get a cup of drip coffee with highest caffeine content, cool it down and drink it at one go. Then take a 25 minutes nap. Caffeine takes about that much time to kick in which is enough to feel productive again.
 Hope this helps the next time you have to be productive in spite of cutting back on sleep!!! Let me know how it goes :)

Thanks for reading,
XO Ayesha

Friday, January 10, 2014

99 varieties of dosa

My friends and I were roaming on the streets of HSR layout, when one of them said, you should try these dosas. They taste great. It was a roadside stall labeled "99 varieties of dosa". We said, "why not?!". They were not cheap. In fact if you go to Adigas, you will get cheaper dosas. But we wanted to try something different. And I have to say, It was a great experience.



If you see the following video, you can see the different topics lined up on the side. We had babycorn mysore masala dosa and paneer dosa. It was Yummy. And its smell still lingers around me. It was served with mint chutney and coconut chutney. Delicious delicious! By the way, Please mute and play. I was not able to edit the video.

video



The roadside stalls have become very popular in the city and are growing to most streets. This growth has been appreciated by people largely!

Do you eat from roadside vendors?

Thanks for reading,
XO Ayesha

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Makeup for kids! Yes or no?


When was the first time you applied applied for the first time?


Little girls as young as 6 years of age are applying make up these days to look "pretty". Heartbreaking!

I probably tried make up as a child, myself. Thats what my mother says. But it was a no-no from her side. And she prevented it from happening to an extent that, even now I have enough make only to fit in my tiny pouch.

A little girl I know, was over at my place a few days back. And she applied my lipstick. And used my mascara on her eyebrows. I don't really use much makeup so she didn't find anything more. This girl is 7 years old. She uses fair and lovely and she has a lipstick of her own. I sat and explained to her why it was not good for her to start using make up yet. I told her that fair and lovely is too harsh for her skin. I'm not sure how much of it she understood. But I did my bit.

My opinion: Makeup for kids? No way!

My sincere request to those around young girls. Keep makeup out of their reach. Both physically and mentally.

But of course, until the time is right.

Thanks for reading,
XO Ayesha

Sunday, January 5, 2014

A little trip to lalbagh

I took a little trip to lalbagh (red garden) a well known botanical garden in Bangalore.
This place has really pretty flowers. You have got to take a look at them.
I just realized I love plant photography. But I have to admit I don't know the first thing about photography. I still try.



 There is a temple on top of the hill. Beautiful one!











What I'm wearing:

Top: Noi
Jeans: Levi's
Watch: Casio
Bag: Gift
Earrings: Roadside
Shoes: Decathlon

Thanks for reading,
XO Ayesha

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Happy new year

Welcome, 2014!
Looks like you came too soon. JK.



I hope that 2014 brings a lot of opportunities and happiness for everyone.
2013 went crazy fast. It swooped past us like a fast winds.

One of the best parts about 2013 has been this blog, probably not going as well as it should, but still giving different sort of spice in life. Giving me something to look forward to everyday. 

Another one getting job offers. Good stuff.

I have some resolutions this year. But resolutions are something that I have never been able to stick to. So fingers crossed.
  • Blogging regularly.
  • Exercising regularly, even if it is for 10 minutes.
  • Making better food choices. 
  • Being more organized.
I'm using a journal to keep a track of my resolutions. And I hope to regularly update my journal. I'm really bad with these things. So, I really really need to fix up my life in this aspect.

Wish me luck, guys!

Thanks for reading
XO Ayesha